skip to main |
skip to sidebar
I know I said that last night's post would be my last one about my mouth. I didn't want to bore you with my lack of information. I will keep updating you about any progress I make towards getting my mouth taken care of. Today, I've made progress:) Wendy emailed me about a program called Dentistry From The Heart. That's an awesome program that provides dental care to those in need. They hold events in different areas all over the map. I checked into it and they don't have any events scheduled in or around our area in the near or distant future. They did have events in Tennessee last October and December though, so they do have events in my state from time to time. So far, they don't have anything scheduled in TN for 2010. State aid, or TennCare as it's called here, will pay for dental visits for people 21 and younger, but I don't meet that requirement:( But like I said, I have made progress this morning! My father-in-law sold his tractor last week and called me this morning with the offer of a loan. He is going to loan us $400. He said that he wishes he could loan more, but that is all that he can spare right now. I am just thrilled that he can loan us anything at all. I know he sold his tractor so that he could pay off some of his smaller bills. The only catch to borrowing from him is that I can't tell my mother-in-law that he loaned it to us. She would be angry because she doesn't really like me and would not approve of him helping me. I feel bad about being dishonest to her. I do not like to be dishonest and I feel like keeping that info from her would just give her another reason to dislike me. I don't know what to do about that, but I do really need that loan and by taking that money I would only need to come up with $270 more. That will be it. Just $270 more and I can be rid of this horrible toothache! Friends, what should I do? I just hate the thought of being dishonest to her. My FIL said that we have to keep it from her or he can't give us the loan. I'm sure she wouldn't just come out and ask us about it, but I think a lie by omission is still a lie. I try to have good morals:) It hurts me that she would prefer for me to suffer just because she doesn't like me. I couldn't wish pain on anyone. I know I would help her if she needed it. Should I accept the loan? Would that make me a terrible person. When I try to rationalize taking the money it doesn't feel wrong to me. Does that make me sound awful? The tractor belonged to my FIL and he paid for it with his own money. She never paid anything on it, so he says that the money he made selling it is his money to do with as he sees fit. He just doesn't want her mad at him for loaning it to us. In my house, we don't have HIS/HER money. It's always been OUR money. Give me your opinions please. I really want to borrow the money from him. I just don't know what to do.
In other news:
You know that giveaway I blogged about yesterday? The one over at Mimi's? Gues who won? ME that's who! I am so excited! I get a piece made by Lisa Leonard!!!!!
He's offering. I say take it and do what he requests. $270.00 to go - that is great. It is going to happen - the question is when? I'm glad for your progress.
ReplyDeleteI have to say too, its the best partial solution you've gotten so far. Sometimes we just need to do, what we need to do... period. I say take this generous man up on his offer and I am convinced the rest will be revealed to you if you keep working on it!! Hugs to you girl... keep hanging in there!
ReplyDeleteYou gotta do what you think is best for you. Nobody else can really make that judgement call. I'd be on the fence too if it were me soo....
ReplyDeleteOn another subject, I wanted to tell you congratulations as soon as I saw your name at the top of Mimi's post but I didn't want to ruin the surprise so I've waited in anticipation of when I could say CONGRATULATIONS! Someone's smiling at ya!
That's a tough decision to make. I don't know what to tell you!
ReplyDeleteThe lie is not yours. You are not responsible for the relationship between FIL and MIL. He feels led to help you. They are probably not on the same level of spirituality. What if you wanted to help someone out that your husband didnt like and he didnt let you. I know you want to do the the right thing and I think in this case it is to accept the gift from your FIL in the spirit in which he is offering it. It might be hurtful to him if you refuse it and besides as a loan you will be paying it back at some stage.
ReplyDelete